How will I know By asking yourself this single question

How will I know By asking yourself this single questionHow will I know By asking yourself this single questionBut how will I know? We struggle with this question. We wrestle with the answers. We wonder what the doubt means. We ask if were in the right thing. If we did the right thing. If its supposed to feel like this. Are we going in the right direction? Are we doing the right work? Are we with the right people? How will I know?Knowing isnt as hard as it feels. Its only hard when youre looking outside yourself. Because the only person who can actually answer that is you. If you ask anyone else, youll get two different variations of relatively unhelpful (while well-intended) advice. Those youre asking will tell youa) youll just know (and you might)b) youll never know (and you might not)Heres the truth. You may know. Or you may never know. But this one, painfullysimple question will helpIs it costing you your power?Is the job youre working costing you your power? Is the person you lov e costing you your power? Is the friend youre keeping around costing you your power? Is the choice youre making costing you your power?You might be wondering how do I know if its costing me my power? Well, because your spirit is taking a hit. Because you dont feel powerful. You can make compromises and totenstill be powerful. You can make sacrifices and still be powerful. You can do things for others and still feel the might of your own power.But when that power waivers so too does your spirit. So too does your light. So too does your strength. So too does your hope. So too does your belief.Want to know what brings that power back, almost immediately? Asking the question. Owning the answer. And stepping, decisively, away from the situation that is costing you that power. That single choice while often not easy, not comfortable, and not fun in any way, will immediately bring your light back. And no matter what heartbreak you feel from the choice, your power returning is a sweet anti dote to the pain. The pain summons the power. The power softens the pain. Oh, irony.So if you want to know, how will I know? Well, youll know because if its supporting your power, expanding it, and encouraging that wildly powerful woman you are then its right. You can settle in the knowing. If its costing you your power in order to be in it, youll also know that its not right.Thisarticlefirst appeared onMaxieMcCoy.com.